3 Consequences of Being The Overly-Attached Guy

(This is a true story based on personal experiences)

I looked at her. She is stunning. Not a perfect 10, but she was perfect in my eyes.
For privacy purpose let's call her Li (Broco and Li, Broccoli).
Back then, I was probably thinking, "Man, if god was an artist, she would be his finest masterpiece". I have been talking to her, going out with her for the past few months. She's been dropping all kinds of IOIs (Indicator of interest).

Things are going great. I was excited and began to talk to her a lot more. A LOT. I started to tell her how I felt, how much I adored her (Dumbest move of the century).

Here's why:

1. She begins to think I am shit
   Ah…I remember when we first met. I was minding my own business, going about my daily routines. Didn't have a goal back then, was a playful douche. Then suddenly, the universe aligned, the angels came down from the heavens and cupid shot an arrow. I met Li.
   Li was interested to find out who this attractive lad was (Douche me). She initiated conversations and dropped IOIs. Damn I was happy and I found her attractive too. After all, she was god's finest masterpiece.
   I began to chat with Li and tell her how I felt about her. Slowly and stupidly, my life started to revolve around her. I talked to her everyday till talk became pester. I began to look like a depressed douche when all the love was not reciprocated. I even let her know how depressed I was. I thought this would help me win her back.
   
   
   What happened here?
   Li began to distant herself away after I got too deep and possessive by talking to her every day, telling her how I feel and trying to make her mine and only mine. She started to smell shit. Li first grew fond of me when I was being the playful douche I was. Now, I was just the possessive douche.
   And you know the rest. She confirmed her suspicions that I was shit.
2. I was no longer a challenge
   You see, I got too caught up talking to her, telling her how I feel and making her my life greatest priority. What the hell, I only knew her for like 2 months and yet I felt that my life was ruined if I lost her.
   
   
   What happened here?
   I was no longer a challenge and easy to get. I seemed like I was a needy guy without any purpose in life. In other words, I was like a child needing to be cared for every minute of the day. Does Li want to be the girlfriend of a child? No, in her eyes, I became a child.
3. The other guys talking to her became sexy beasts
   We tend to compare things whether we know it or not. We may do it unconsciously but I am pretty sure we compare almost everything. When you are in a class full of bad students, you feel like a Harvard student because you compare yourself to the bad students. But what happens when you go into a class of full of Einsteins? You suddenly become Doofus.
   
   
   What happened here?
   When I became a child, the other normal guys bumped up the sexy scale from 3 to 8. They became attractive in comparison to me and like gravity, she was drawn to them.
   This made me sadder. I let her know I was sad. She didn't care, even if she did, it was pity. Like the pity you have for the ants you stepped on by accident.

Final thoughts

At the end of the day, I believe it is the mind-set that messed me up. I was possessive over Li and was afraid to lose her.

What mind-set then?

Understand that she is only one of many aspect of my life at that point and that losing her would just meant that we were not right for each other. I should remain as the playful guy with my family, friends, hobbies and academics being all the other aspects of my life. With that mind-set, I wouldn't be the baby I became. I would be the playful attractive douche that I once was.

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